Happy Birthday to me!
Hi everyone, I hope you are all doing well today. It's August 5th and today is a special day for me. Today is my birthday. It's my 35th birthday which means today I am eligible to run for president. With the 2016 elections just around the corner who knows, haha.
I think a presidential run is unlikely to be in my future but I will keep my options open. Many transgender people have a hard time with birthdays. I think that for some it's a reminder of who they were before their transition. It's understandable that such symbolism would be difficult. I, however, love birthdays. I think that everyone is given one special day and I like that idea.
In many ways today is also my first birthday. A year ago I had not yet started my transition. In fact things looked much different. I spent part of my last birthday in the hospital with kidney stones. I was clinging to a life that no longer existed and desperately trying not to let it go. Needless to say 365 days later things look much different for me. I went from married to single, from him to her and have lived what feels like much more life than just a years’ worth.
It’s interesting to think about your life “starting” 35 years after it began and while in many ways that’s true, I think it discounts the life I have lived. I have been blessed with three amazing children who I would not trade for anything in this world. I have had an opportunity to see countries and places both in the military and in my personal travels that have left me in awe. I have spent 16 years serving in the military and have had a chance to serve with amazing and incredibly brave men and women. I would not trade those experiences and they have made me the woman I am today.
Yet, I do have to acknowledge that this birthday is different because I, in fact, am different. This is my first birthday as Patricia. This is the first birthday Patricia Esther King legally has ever had. The journey I have had in the first year of my life living genuinely has been nothing short of amazing. I feel more relaxed, I feel more normal. I have so much more confidence now than I ever have before. I also have an amazing new sense of purpose now. This journey has not only given me a new story but also an amazing opportunity to tell that story and I am so fortunate to be able to do so. I have met wonderful people traveling their own paths to becoming who they were meant to be and I am so glad to share that journey with them all.
Who knows what the next year will hold for me, but I face it with a sense of optimism and excitement. A year from now open transgender service in the military will be a reality. A year from now I will have had 18 months on hormones. I have learned in the last year that a year from now is around the corner and a lifetime away. Just as I am happy for the memories I have made I look forward to those I have yet to make. Thank you so much for letting me share them with you and for being a part of my story today. Birthdays are special because they are a celebration of each and every one of us. Now, if you will excuse me I have a candle to go blow out.
"Nothing is too girly and nothing is too masculine. But I do love color, and maybe that's a little girly - especially pink." Stacy London