An open letter to haters

Hi,

This letter isn't about you. This letter is about me. My name is Patricia King and I am a transgender woman. I'm comfortable with both of those words, they neither embarrass or shame me. My pronouns are her, she, she's. I'm not a sir I, am a ma'am. I don't have "women's clothing" I have my clothing. Of course I do "girly" things, I'm a girl. Transgender further identifies what kind of person I am the same way someone might use tall, white, or in some cases ignorant to describe someone.

Being transgender doesn't make me a pervert. It doesn't make me a fetishist. It doesn't make me a bad person, a bad soldier, a bad parent, or a bad Christian. I do not require your acceptance or permission and I will not ask for it, or apologize for being who I am. Being transgender breaks no laws and requires no special treatment, only that I be treated with respect as any other person. My being transgender does not hurt you or require you to do anything but treat me with respect. You being offended by my existence says nothing about me and everything about you.

I am out of the closet and I am not going back. Transition is awkward, it is challenging at times, and it is a decision that I did not make lightly. There is nothing you can think of that I haven't already considered, and my disagreeing with someone doesn't make me wrong, but this is right for me. You can assume that when it comes to this I am well versed. I am not offended easily. Name calling won't hurt me, neither will your stares or snickers. I know who I am. I am surrounded by allies who support me and family who loves me.

I choose to be happy. I look at the bright side. I do my best to lift people up and encourage others. I live a good life. My name is Patricia. You can call me that, Pattie, Trish or Tricia. Or you can keep walking because that's what I'm going to do.

XOXO,

Trish

"Nothing is too girly and nothing is too masculine. But I do love color, and maybe that's a little girly - especially pink." Stacy London


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